Tuesday, December 30, 2008

52 Blessings Project~Week 51

This Week I Am Grateful For ~ Fun, And FREE!

Christmas is a drain. Financially, physically, and emotionally. It is easy to get caught up and not take the time to enjoy the moment.

During the holidays money always seems to be tight so even though the kids are out of school and we have the time to do things we never seemed to have them money to do it! This year I have felt fortunate that we had some activities that were both fun and free. They allowed us to take the time to be with the family, share some fun times and just enjoy the time together.

We got the tickets to zoo lights that included a great catered dinner. We took one day and went to Bass Pro shop for their Christmas celebration. They had cookies to decorate, free target shooting, letter writing to Santa, a Santa to visit, and lots of fun stuff to look at! It was very nice.

Temple square on Christmas Eve was fantastic and once again..Free!After Christmas Ashley was here for a visit so we went to the zoo again. A whole different experience than going at night, and once again Free! I love free!

Me being cheap I went to Target before we left and bought popcorn. Only $1.00 compared to the $4.00 at the zoo! The kids had fun and I was lovin how sweet the older ones were with everyone! It doesn't happen often so when it does I love it!

This year I think was one of the best years for me this Christmas. For some reason the stress was just gone. It was like magic! We didn't have a lot of money to spend but we somehow had enough to do what we needed.

And having things to do for free helped stretch the budget and the FUN! And for that I am very grateful!

Friday, December 26, 2008

Was Your Christmas Merry?

Mine started out a little tentative I have to admit. Ladies..I am sure you will side with me on this I swear!
It began the night before my birthday. Grace broke my crockpot and I was telling Tony I am in deep trouble here without my crockpot! So for my birthday the next day I unwrapped a crockpot for my gift. Not my favorite present by far! Whatever!
So Christmas Eve Tony gives me one gift to open from him. He swears it is so fantastic! I am going to love it! He really talks it up! I am getting super excited! So.. I tear into it with anticipation and excitement! And..what is it?? A electric knife sharpener! What the? Are you crazy I asked him? What next? Is Santa bringing me a vacuum tomorrow I ask? If so I swear I might go postal!

Fortunatly for Santa and the family I did not recieve a Vacuum or any other appliance on Christmas day and everyone was saved from me having a selfish Christmas meltdown!

In fact the day turned out to be delightful!

Here are some of my favorite things about the day~

Favorite gift received~ Photoshop Elements 7.0~ Good one Tony...really, really good! Much better than the sharpener fo shure!

Favorite Saying of the day~ Bailey when after openeing all the presents she did a little dance then jumped in the air and said "YES!!! I got lots and lots of presents! I guess Santa Can't see me all the time after all!" I guess she wasn't all good all the time and she was a little worried about how the bad times might have affected her loot!

Favorite Moment~The girls coming into the living room and seeing the presents and stockings for the first time! They were so,so cute! it was great listening to them as they opened the stockings!

Favorite Food of the Day~ All of it! It was so good. Rib roast, potatoes, dressing, rolls, pie..the works!

Favorite Act Of Kindness for the Day~ Tony letting me go back to sleep for another TWO hours after presents! And he helped with the picking up and supervising of the kids. It made a much nicer day for me to not have to do it all!

It was a wonderful day. Watching my kids open presents and seeing the excitement in their faces was priceless. They were so sweet and shared everything and were so happy for each other. The older kids helped the younger ones and even helped me.

I didn't lose it once. Yeah me!

It turned out to be a very merry Christmas indeed!

How about you? Was your Christmas Merry?

Low Key Christmas Eve

Kind of strange not being with my whole family for Christmas Eve. I feel kind of lost as to what to do sometimes! It feels off if we don't have 30 or more people gathered for dinner, caroling and presents.

This year I decided to keep it low key. Not many expectations, just to enjoy the night with the family. That's exactly what we did. Instead of cooking a huge meal I bought deli meats and we made sandwiches and had chips, dips and crackers and cheese.

We opened presents then headed out to the Mesa Temple to look at the lights.They were amazing and helped me feel in the holiday mood a little more!

By the time we got home the lil ones were exhausted so I sent them to bed and the wrapping began! I don't know how I manage to do this every year but somehow I forget what I have bought and I end with more crap than is necessary. I worry and worry I don't have enough and in the end it is always the family joke when we pull everything out and I find lots of stuff I had forgotten about!

You could tell Zachary and Rachelle were excited for the morning as they helped with the wrapping and commented on how fun it would be to see the kids open the presents

So~ Even though it was a low key Christmas Eve I have to say it was nice.

I hope all of you had fantastic evenings as well!

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

It's My Party And I'll Cry If I Want Too!

OK, have you ever felt that way on your birthday? Seriously! I have! Having a December birthday so close to Christmas SUCKS sometimes!

BUT~ Not this year! My family actually remembered! Rachelle got up early and took the lil ones. I got to sleep in! She and Hannah picked up the house and Hannah made a homemade card and made sure everyone signed it!
I got may hair done and then Tony and I went out to dinner to my fav restaurant the Fish Market. It was such a nice day!
No one forgot and everyone went out of their way to be kind and make sure I had a good day!
So to my family~ Thanks for making it a great day! It was fantastic!

Oh.. and Tony? He is ON this year! Not only has he gotten me presents for Christmas this year he did it all by himself. No help from me. And he says the gifts are fantastic! No last minute trips to CVS to buy me crap I don't like cause he didn't bother to buy me anything until 11 pm on the 24Th! I told him over and over it is the thought of the gift.. you actually looking for something I would love. The time and the thought!Let's me know you care! And he has finally gotten it! I am so proud of him! And~It only took me 11 years to train him! Dang I'm good!
Way to go Tony!!

Sunday, December 21, 2008

52 Blessings Project~ Week 50

This Week I Am Grateful For~ A Sense Of Humor

I have found myself getting a bit frazzled and sometimes just plain angry with the hustle and bustle of Christmas preparation and kids and keeping up with the house and life.

Several times I have had Grace or Bailey say something so funny that just when I feel like I am going to cry I find myself laughing!

Well that same thing happened last week in the Circle K. I was frustrated, angry and feeling overwhelmed. I left the house to take a breather and go get a soda. I swear I was so on edge that I was trying not to cry when I walked into the store. I wasn't paying attention very well and almost ran smack into this huge, huge black woman. I stopped just short of ramming her and she was giving me the dirtiest look. I gave her a once over and almost started laughing out loud. I SERIOUSLY couldn't believe what I saw! She had a gold cap on her tooth.She had a gold hairpiece in her head, a HUGE pair of hoop earrings in the upper cartilage part of her ear, another bigger pair in her ears, A gold purse, a gold shirt, pants with gold stitching down the leg and to top the eye catching, sparkly ensemble off she had on a pair of gold sneakers! Freaking AWESOME!!!! I mean who has the guts to wear something like that?

So I get my soda, and I notice this scrawny, little white boy. He is trying to look all pimped out. Gold hat.He has his pants below his butt cheeks,ALL the way below and he also has lots of gold jewelry on. I couldn't believe my luck getting to see TWO people so blinged out and over the top And then... they met up~yes! They were together! How could I not have guessed?

Then I was blocking the cheese sauce for nachos when I was putting the lid on my soda and they asked me to move cause they needed to sneak some cheese onto their chips. They each had a bag of chips. One was Cheetos and one was Funnyuns. They told me it was the most delicious treat and I should give it a try. They then opened their bags and loaded on the cheese.LOADED IT! Trashy goodness or just trashy? Hmmm!

Not sure why but the whole thing cracked me up. Hope I didn't offend them but I was laughing my butt off by this time.

And by the time I left Circle K my mood had done a 180.

Strange but I have had things like this happen alot the last two weeks or so. I am angry or frustrated and then something happens that makes me laugh and seems to right everything for the moment and for that I am grateful
PS~ Rhonda Lu just mentioned I shoulda used my camera phone! I KNOW!!! I was so bummed cause that is totally what I wanted to do! My phone broke and I am using a crap little phone with no camera! RhondaLu has the best photos she captured with her cell phone! I love seeing them!I am totally going to have to capture some of the great photos you do!

Doesn't She Look Cute?

I was over it. her mousy flat hair! I am used to having girls with curls. Curls, I know how to do. Straight hair? Not so much! Sooo after trying to make her hair look somewhat cute the other day and failing miserably I admitted defeat and I decided it was time! I'm vain that way. I like my girls hair to look cute and it wasn't happening. I admit it. We need help. Professional help.We went to the kids cuts salon to look for some guidance!

They came up with this cute a line haircut for Bailey! See how the cut makes her mousy flat hair not look so mousy and flat? I love, love it and even better? So does she! Yesterday I caught her twice up on my counter staring at herself in the mirror!

I guess she was tired of the mousy flat hair too!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Christmas Cookie Exchange!

Today was my cookie exchange! It was a ton of work getting ready for it but I have to say it was more than worth it!

I went to Walmart and asked for some of their donut boxes. They didn't even charge me for them.I got them for free. I love free!

I wanted to jazz them up a bit and make them a little more festive so I added the little gingerbread men and the trees and stars.They turned out pretty cute if I do say so myself Pretty humble I know..that's just who I am!

I invited 7 people but only 5 could come I was a little worried but that ended up being just perfect. Everyone brought their kids and they had so much fun playing. We had a yummy lunch then we started the swap.

Now I would have tons more photos but I have a sad tale to tell...I had almost all of the house clean,but not my room! In fact my room is a total dump right now. Seriously sick. So I was walking by my room and saw Bailey in there with some of the her friends and I just about died! I just knew that one of the ladies was going to walk by and gag if they saw it so I had to resort to drastic measures and lock the door! And...my camera was in the room! And...I have no clue how to open the door by myself when it is locked!I am so bugged. No pictures of my friends, no pictures of the food, no pictures of the kids playing. UGGHHH! I was in blogger hell for a moment there.

But~ I do have a picture of the boxes I made before the party and I have a picture of all the yummy cookies after the party when Rachelle came home and opened my door for me! SO I will post those and you will just have to imagine how fabulous the other photos would have been if I had cleaned my room!
Don't the cookies look so cute in the box?

Oh.. and I made up a treat plate to take visit teaching tomorrow. Look how cute it is! I LOVE Cookie exchanges! Warning ladies...I am going to do it again next year so you might want to begin now and start baking by next month Ü
Can't wait to do it again!

Bailey's Preschool Christmas Program

Yesterday was Bailey's Christmas program at preschool and let me tell you it was stinking fantastic! her teacher outdid herself!

When we walked in they had tables set up with all the little gingerbread houses that the kids made along with a Angel they made and pictures of each child. Bailey's picture was probably the cutest picture taken I am fairly certain! It made the whole room look so festive.

Once the kids were all settled the program began.To start off they had a prayer. I loved that. It is so unusual today to have prayer anymore in public and I loved that there were people gathered from all religious backgrounds and we started the program off with prayer.Especially at Christmas. A little boy in her class offered the prayer and it was so sweet. The songs then began.The kids were so dang cute. Bailey was totally into it.I was surprised.

They had the cutest props, great songs and I actually loved watching the whole thing

After the program we had lunch and then the kids go to sit on Santa's lap!

It was a fun, fun day and I am even more impressed with Mrs McClure now than I was before!It takes a miracle worker to pull of what she did!

I hope she knows how much we appreciate all her hard work and love she put into this!

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Wii Fit Contest!

My friend Amber is hosting a giveaway with Nintendo! They are giving away a wii system and a wii fit!

You'll have to check out her blog. http://crazybloggincanuck.blogspot.com/

She writes for the Denver Mile High Mamas and is one of the funniest, most talented writers out there. I love reading her blog, so check her out and enter the contest too! Maybe if I don't win you might. I'll try not to be hater if you do! Good luck!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Zoo Lights!

This year Lowe's was a sponsor of the annual Zoo lights so we were fortunate to score some free tickets!
We started the night with having dinner at a special event they did for families and friends of the sponsers. The food was great even though it was little too sophisticated for some of the lil ones! They weren't lovin the brie cooked in a puff pastry. I on the other hand loved the food served. And it was all free! Can't beat that!
We strolled through the park and looked at all the lights and listened to the music. We bought the kids flashing bunny ears,flashing necklaces, etc. They were in heaven!
To finish off the night we took the kids on the carousel for a ride!
It was a perfect ending to a perfect night and a great way to enjoy the Chritmas season with the family!

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

52 Blessings Project ~Week 49

This Week I Am Grateful For ~ The Christmas Season !

I have had the best time getting ready for Christmas this year. I love the small acts of kindness that people offer to one another this time of year as they strive to be a little more Christlike. I love the carols. I love the nativities. I am hoping to find a live one this year.I love trying to teach my little ones the true meaning of Christmas. I love the lights and the shopping and the baking. The older ones were asking on Thanksgiving if I was going to buy them a chocolate advent calender too this year. I had to smile at that one. I always buy those calenders and we open them each night as we read out of our book and sing Christmas songs. And I have loved the kids asking me to make some of the Christmas smell.
Tonight I made some homemade caramels and the kids were so excited to help me pull out the Christmas taffy wrappers and wrap them. Zach was saying the treats that I make each year is one of his favorite things.
I love pulling out decorations that we have had for years and remembering who we got them from. I love decorating the tree and seeing the sweet ornaments that the kids made for me in elementary school. One of my favorite ones is a clay star Zach made that has his picture on the front of it. I can't get over how quickly time flew.
I love the kids drawing each others names and the shopping as they try to find the perfect gift for each other. This year we are trying to have the kids not only give each other a gift but also a gift of service. I hope it helps them feel more kind towards one another.
I have always been so stressed over Christmas and there have been many years that I have not enjoyed it. It was just a season to survive. But..this year is different. I am enjoying it. I am feeling some Christmas spirit. It has been fun, and touching, and exciting and one of the best years yet! For that I am thankful!

Friday, December 5, 2008

Christmas Tag

My cousin Sherry tagged me on this one. Luckily it's easier than the others so here goes...

1. Wrapping paper or gift bags? Both

2. Real tree or Artificial? Artificial. We used to get real ones but they were always bone dry and I was afraid they would catch on fire! last year a bulb on my artificial tree went out and I spent hours trying to find the burnt out bulb. I finally got pissed and started cutting the lights off! I had blisters on my fingers and was hopping mad. After Christmas I threw that sucker in the trash and swore I'd never buy another fake tree again. Tony's work has a 50% off sale of all Christmas and we get another 20% off. So today I am heading off to buy another fake one. So much for never. I just can't pass up a good bargain!

3. When do you put up the tree? When I have a fake one I like to put it up the day after Thanksgiving. If it is real whenever I have the money to buy it and the time to put it up!

4. When do you take the tree down? Always before April. Always.

5. Do you like eggnog? Nope, sick nasty!

6. Favorite gift received as a child? A doll cradle. I don't remember a doll but I remember how much I loved that cradle!

7. Hardest person to buy for? Tony without a doubt! he sucks at how picky he is! And he often finds out what I buy and tries to be subtle at letting me know it wasn't a great choice! I just have him tell me what he wants and where it is. I do have a few surprises this year though...

8. Easiest person to buy for? My little ones. They are so excited for Christmas and it makes the season so magical! Bailey and Grace fight over the commercials. One screams I want it and the other hits them and says NO I WANT IT!! Yesterday Bailey was in my room and I was in the bathroom in the hall. I kept hearing her scream I want it. I want it. I was wondering who she was saying this to and why she kept saying it over and over. When I came in to see I was horrified. EVERY commercial that came on she was screaming to herself and the universe at large that she wanted it. They are every advertising firms dream! I'm thinking I can't go wrong here. They want everything!

9. Do you have a nativity scene? Some. I am super excited though cause Lowes has one that I am picking up today. Yes 70% off. Are you jealous? It has tall standing Mary and Joseph and baby Jesus in the manger. The stable is one of those blow ups. The whole thing is for the front of my house! Yeah!! I can't wait.

10. Mail or email Christmas cards? Mail. I am horrible at getting them sent out in time but I love getting them and I feel good when I get them out!

11. Worst Christmas gift you ever received? From my Ex. It was a dark turd green outfit embellished with gold to help you not puke a little in your mouth when you look at it! He even bought matching gold shoes! Seriously the ugliest outfit EVAH! Saddest part??? I wore it many times to please him! Didn't want to hurt his feelings that I hated it! He had the WORST taste. Christmas was a bummer with him.

He took Zach and Rachelle shopping for Mother's day for me. He wanted Rachelle to buy me this African Dress with a matching head piece. She came home freaked out and said "Mom, you just wouldn't believe it, you really, really wouldn't!" Ummm, Rach, yes I would! I really, really would! Hehehe!

12. Favorite Christmas Movie? A Christmas Story. You'll shoot your eye out! I look forward to that saying all year long. If you haven't seen it do it now! You'll laugh your butt off. It is one of our favs. That and Christmas vacation. Fav part of that one? The man says where are you going to put a tree that big? Clarke says bend over and I'll show you. The man says how dare you talk to me like that. Clarke says I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to your wife! Sick I know but I had tears rolling down my face and was humiliated the first time I saw it! It was so freakin funny. gotta see that classic too if you haven't seen it. Last movie~ It's a wonderful life. I like to watch it when Christmas is hectic and I am frustrated. Perspective goes a long way folks1

13. When do you start shopping for Christmas? A few weeks before Thanksgiving. Christmas will be tight so I am shopping sales. Yes..I even gave in and did black friday!

14. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present? Probably

15. Favorite thing to eat at Christmas? The cookies and candies. I love cooking all season long. I love the favorites we make year after year.

16. Colored or Clear Lights? Colored

17. Favorite Christmas song? Christmas isn't Christmas without Amy Grant, John Denver, and Alabama Christmas Cd's. My fav song? Candle in the window by Alabama!

18. Travel at Christmas or stay home? Home

19. Can you name all of Santa's reindeer? Nope. Not even gonna try!

20. Angel on the tree top or a star? Star or Santa depending on my mood!

21. Open the presents Christmas Eve or morning? We open P.J's on Christmas Eve and the gifts from the name exchange with the kids and the kids open presents from Grandparents and the rest Christmas morning.

22. Most annoying thing about this time of the year? Nothing so far!

23. Favorite ornament theme or color? Santa's and deep red.

24. Favorite for Christmas dinner? Traditional Proffitt family Christmas food.

25. What do you want for Christmas this year?My house cleaned. Same as always. probably not gonna happen so I'll settle on a cute outfit!

26. White or Warm Christmas? White. I am trying to come to grips with having a warm one and making it feel like Christmas still. I miss snow!

27. Favorite thing about Christmas? The lights. We go driving with the kids often and rate who has the best light displays!

28. Favorite Christmas Tradition? We light a candle and read from our Christmas book. It has scriptures and stories nightly. We sing and open a door on the advent calenders. It is a fun tradition that we look forward to every year.

29. Favorite Christmas Location? Home.

30. Who do you tag? OK. I won't steal all the sisters again! Shelli, Claudia,Jennifer,Kiran,Cara,and Rhonda Lue! Have fun ladies!

Monday, December 1, 2008

52 Blessings Project~ Week 48

This Week I Am Grateful For~ Thanksgiving!

I love Thanksgiving.I love the gathering of our family.I love the food. There is something comforting when you prepare and eat the same foods that you grew up having at each holiday. It bridges the gap and helps me to feel a little more connected to my family even if we aren't together that year.

I love sitting around the table and having each of my children tell me about the things they are thankful for. It is always a good reminder for us to recognize how blessed we are.

I loved that the weather was cooled off for the day! It actually felt fall-ish! It was fantastic!

I felt very thankful for so much that day.

here are a few things that struck me throughout the day that I was thankful for~

Tony's job. Tony is opening a new store in Tempe. They had a job fair to fill some positions. They needed to fill 37 positions in the store. They had over 500 people show up to interview for it! Time and time again he heard people tell him that they were laid off from their jobs and are desperate to find some work. Tony has a very good job that pays well and gives us some stability in our lives. Yes we have had to move several times but we have been blessed knowing that our family will be taken care of.

My health! Our families have had a heck of a year with health issues! It has been very difficult with all the trials that have come their way. I have been so impressed with the resolve and spirit in which Maria has handled her health difficulties. I admire her courage and strength.

Rosemary, Isabelle, Adam, and Angie have also had health issues or injuries! Crazy year I swear!

My sister has just had a stroke last week and the Dr's are still trying to figure it all out. She has been so calm throughout the whole ordeal.I can't imagine how scared she must be feeling. I am worried for her. She is young and it is wild to think of her going through this right now!

Know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers! And..I can promise you I won't take good health for granted again!

My kids! Whoa did I just say that? Well yes! I enjoy the good and great times. It was fun to sit around the table Thanksgiving and laugh with them and listen to the stories.They are smart and funny and difficult and strong willed and loving and kind. They are my hardest trial and my greatest joy! I need to chill and enjoy them more!

Willing helpers! This year after dinner Tony got up and cleared off the table. Then Zachary got up and started doing dishes. And he washed the things that wouldn't fit into the dishwasher by hand. Wow..he doesn't do that often! It was nice! And Rachelle and Hannah helped put away food. I think this was the first year that I wasn't freaking out and angry that no one would help and I had been working my tail off! It was delightful and relaxing!

Living in the best country in the world. Even though the elections took a few years off of my life and I don't always agree with the politics of this country I recognize how blessed I am to be free to express it. We have a abundance in our lives. We have great medical care. We have religious freedom. We have amazing soldiers and their families supporting them as they bravely stand up for us and fight for our freedom!
I love, love this country!
I could go on and on .There was so much I have been blessed with and I love that we take the time every year on Thanksgiving to acknowledge all the blessings in our lives!

52 Blessings Project~ Week 47

Running behind posting but have been meaning to on this one. So..

This Week I Am Grateful For~ Going To The Temple!

Tony and I haven't been to the temple for over 6 years! Gasp..yes I know. But when we moved into our new ward our bishop told us he feels that there are blessings that come to your family when you attend the temple and he felt very strongly that we shouldn't wait any longer to get our recommends! Wow! When we lived in Colorado our bishop there said he wouldn't give us a recommend for at least a year and then it was still only a maybe. I was upset thinking it was extreme but we went along with it. We hadn't done anything really wrong but were just inactive for awhile.

So I was thrilled and emotional and grateful all rolled into one when we got our recommends!

Last weekend our stake had a day of gratitude. They asked all the families in the stake to attend the temple. They wanted adults to attend a session and they wanted families to visit the visitor center and the temple grounds. They even served a lunch for everyone at the chapel.

So we took the kids and made a day of it. It was such a neat experience for us and my kids were so sweet. I was so moved by some of the comments the older ones made. It gave me hope that there is a testimony in there hiding. And that we were on the right track to help build it.

I knew it was where we should be and that we were doing the right thing.

Needless to say it was a emotional day!

I felt such peace and I am feel so grateful to be able to have a temple recommend and to be able to attend. For that I am very grateful!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Score One For Me!

Mornings around here suck! I mean seriously SUCK!! It is a constant battle getting the mouthy teens butts out of bed and ready to leave in time for school.
I have threatened, grounded, and blown alot of hot air. Just couldn't find the right motivation/threat to get them to school on time. And then last week it hit me...The cell phones! They are their lifelines to the outer world!
So last week when we were driving to school and I was lecturing for the umpteenth time I finally gave them a ultimatum. If they are late one more time..lose the phone for a day. next time after that for a week and so on!
So yesterday once again mouthy teen number one comes strolling out to the car fifteen minutes late. I smile and put my hand out. The stupid/blank look was priceless! So was the pissed arguing/begging!
I stood my ground and confiscated the phone. And I didn't give in early even with the constant badgering! AND!!!!!!! Today~Mouthy teen was ready and in the car TEN MINUTES EARLY!!!
Wow! I won the battle. Not the war, but hey I'll take the victory anyhow!
So Whoohoo! Point for me!
Here's the tally so far!
I think I'm gaining on them here!

Monday, November 24, 2008

Lovin Black Friday Ads??

Not me! Dang! So far I haven't seen anything that is such a smokin deal that I am going to drag my sorry butt out of bad at 4 am!
Now I have done this for many years but I am just not feeling it this year! is it me? Am I just cranky and not in the holiday mood or does anyone Else think the sales aren't as fabulous as usual?
Walmart does have a pretty good deal on kids Pjs and Slippers. They are only $4.00 BUT the Pjs are originally only $9 and the slippers are only $ 7 so I'm thinking it's not worth it for just those things!
Maybe I'll hit the Disney store later in the day! They always have fantastic Black Friday deals.
It feels a little sad not going but I like my sleep too much to give it up for one or two things!
Sooo....Who is going to hit the black Friday sales, and what are you after that is so fabulous you are going to risk your life in the running of the bulls people?

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

This Is Fall????

What the heck is going on around here folks? I hear it is fall. I see the decorations. I know it is almost thanksgiving. Logically I know it is fall. But sheesh!!!! 85 degrees in November? It sucks! I want to wear a sweater. I want to turn my heater on. I want to make soup and then want to eat it cause I'm chilled! I WANT FALL!!! WAAAAAAHHHHH!

Don't even get me started about Christmas~ I already know what to expect and just thinking of it I am chanting..go to your happy place...go to your happy place!

Monday, November 17, 2008

He's finally Met His Match!

Zach had a sad tale to tell tonight. Seems there is a girl at school who is mentally retarded and is in a wheelchair. He thought she didn't like him but he wasn't sure and he didn't know why.
Well today there was no question about her feelings for him. She tried to run him over with her wheelchair and told him "Move it Fat A$$!!"
He was speechless!
He wanted me to be sympathetic. He was embarrassed.Unfortunately I laughed.
I guess he's finally met his match!

52 Blessings Project~ Week 46

This Week I Am Grateful For~ A Sunday Without Chaos!!
I usually hate Sundays. Yep, hate them. I fight with the kids and yell and am frustrated that they won't get in the shower, can't find their tie, can't find their shoes. Won't help get the diaper bag ready.
Doesn't matter that Saturday night they were supposed to have their clothes laid out and ready to go. Often they claim that they are only to find Sunday that they aren't! Ugg!
So, by the time we get to church~usually late I am ticked off. And then wrestling my lil ones trying to keep them quiet often adds to my mood. Some days I sit there and wonder why we even try.
BUT~ we have made the commitment. We ARE going to try. Each and every Sunday. Even if it sucks. Church is where we need to be. What our family needs.
So I began the prep for Sunday on Saturday. Bought everything for the dinner. Crockpotting it. Bought new tights for the girls so I didn't have to look for old ones. Bought Ethan a new shirt so I wouldn't have to dig through laundry to find one of the few ones I have for church.
I actually checked to make sure the older ones had clothes ready.
And now for the really big part here.....On Sunday I got up early (gasp!)
I got in the shower first thing and got myself ready. Yes I think that is the secret for me.Once ready I had time to get the dinner in the crockpot, make cornbread, bathe the lil ones, get them dressed, Bugged older ones to be on time and get crackin and I even got someone to get that dang diaper bag ready before we were ready to leave.
I didn't have to scream once. I didn't have one single argument with one person. It was smooth sailing around here!
Best part???? We arrived almost 20 minutes early! First time evah! BOOYA!
I wasn't angry, or frustrated. I was calm. And it was a fantastic feeling to watch Zach up there as a priest helping to bless the sacrament. I was so grateful. Our ward is a lil pushy with him and even if he protests a little they keep on him. So he did it! Yah I totally love this ward.
So even if the lil ones were still a bit wild I was able for the first time in a long long time able to go to church without all the Chaos and frustration and I actually had a great day!
~For That I Am Very Thankful!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

A Little More Patient

Tony is out of town tonight. Back in Colorado doing some training. And Bailey and Grace are still on one. You know the uncontrollable crying. The Mommy I want you. And I am feeling a little pitiful myself. Wishing Tony were here so I could pawn them off on him. Yeah the past two days have been hairy. But~ that is life. The good has some bad. And we persevere and we laugh and we hold onto the frayed ends of sanity.
Now the kids are finally asleep and I am able to slip into bed with my laptop to wind down and chill. I log onto to cox and I read the latest headline that is put out there through the associated press?
Nebraska parents rush to abandon children before lawmakers rewrite ill-fated 'safe-haven' law
Has the world gone mad? I read a little more and feel so incredibly sad. It tells how lawmakers in Nebraska had a law that allows parents to drop off their children that they don't want. The law was intended to save 'dumpster babies' but instead parents have been dropping off older children.20 teenagers, and 8 children who are 10 or 11! Wow! Do you wonder how our society has come to the point where they can drop their children off like a donation to good will? I really hurt for these kids.
And this has softened my heart a little and made the past two days not seem as awful. I sat here after reading this article and thought about my kids and the good and the ugly. And I smiled thinking about how Ethan is so snuggly right now. He likes to push anyone on my lap off so he gets me all to himself. He then wraps those fat little arms around my neck and he squeezes with all his might. He will then sometimes kiss me or he will pat my back over and over.
Or how about Grace telling me with a big smile on her face that she was going to torture me tonight because her owie was hurting.Or how she offered to wipe for me when I went to the bathroom and told me it won't be too disgusting. And Bailey was so delighted because she was sneaky and put some of Hannah's deodorant on and Hannah didn't even see her and do I want to smell her pits? And Mouthy teenager wanted to go to the store with me tonight. Didn't need anything. Just wanted to hang out and talk a little. And Hannah told me about 5 times before she went to bed how much she loved me. Or other mouthy teenager busting out the kitchen and the bedroom before heading to bed.
I was so focused on the constant screaming the past two days that I wasn't paying attention to the good stuff too.I like a saying I heard once~I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once. That's life right? Our children often give us mothers something to laugh about.And if we take the time it makes up for the things they will inevitably do to make us cry.
I don't know about you but tomorrow I want to be a little more patient a little softer and I want to make sure that there is no question in any of their minds that I love them so much and am grateful that they are a part of my family.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008


Due to financial restraints, the light at the end of the tunnel has been turned off until further notice

Oh yeah..it's been one of those days! I keep thinking hmmm it's got to get better soon right? WRONG!
Ok.. Here's a little taste of what crazy looks like!
Get up with the lil ones and head into kitchen. Start making breakfast and notice Ethan is missing. Find him in the toilet swimming. Clean him up, put new clothes on him and go back to breakfast. Ethan has meltdown when I put him in highchair so I let him down and just give him a bagel. Go to the bathroom and come back out to find him having dumped all the cat food out and he is snacking on it! Sick. Put him on the couch and head into laundry room to start load of laundry.Come back out to find him IN the sink with the water running. He is soaked and water is going onto the floor.
Phone rings. It's new visiting teachers. They want to come over. NOW! Umm NO! I give in and we agree to them coming in a half a hour. Put lil ones in tub. Get them out. Get Bailey and Ethan dressed. Grace is having meltdown at thought of putting pants on. Getting boogers all over me (yeah..Ethan and Grace are sick)
Doorbell rings. They're here. Ethan and Grace have meltdown together. Screaming together. LOUD! VT asks if they are always like this. Umm NO! They are irritated and say they can see I am having a hard time so they aren't going to give a lesson, just want to know if I need anything as they are standing to leave. NOPE.I betcha that is the last I ever see of them.I don't think they were liking crazy!
Go to drop Bailey off at the carpool. Lady driving forgot I was meeting at her home. Mad dash to get Bailey to other kids home so she can go. Blood pressure is borderline stroke level.
Run a few errands with crying boogery lil ones. Pick up mouthy teenagers. Get email from old landlord. She is hosing us and keeping most of deposit. Lucky me. Small claims court here we come. Mouthy teenager won't get out of shower so he doesn't have to go to mutual. We turn off the water to the house (clever eh?) Mouthy teenager starts to do his job in kitchen and breaks a glass of vinegar. Complains I have to clean it. Nice little discussion. Ethan wiping boogers all over me and crying. I get him in his PJs and try rocking him. He pukes on me.Bailey and Grace are clawing each other and screaming as I am wiping puke off us. I am suddenly laughing in a crazy sort of way by now! Ever had one of those days?
Ahh Tony.. just hand over the chocolate and no one will get hurt.
Today without question I am the statue and not the pigeon!

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

52 Blessings Project ~ Week 45

This Week I Am Grateful For~ Having A Microwave!
When we first moved here the microwave was not working. We went two weeks without one! At first I thought no biggie, we would get a new one on the next paycheck. But Oh my heck! I thought I was going to die without it! What was I going to do when I forgot to put the butter out to soften? Or can you cook Hot Pockets in the oven? Do I admit that I actually burnt canned ravioli on the stove top?
Fact is I am a domestic retard without that sucker and since the broken one has been replaced I find myself smiling each and every time as I soften a cube of butter or cook a corn dog for lunch and for that I am very grateful!

Need Ideas ASAP!!

Tony and I are on our new wards activity commitee. They had a christmas program planned. It was going to be christmas in Zarahemla. They were going to have the ward choir perform and have a mexican buffet. It doesn't make sense to me. BUT the choir has backed out and we just got a email asking for suggestions of themes for the party.They need ideas that are cheap and put together quickly. Does anyone have any suggestions that they have? Are there any Christmas parties that really stood out to you?
Let me know since we have to email them back today!!

Tip Junkie Giveaway!

Do you love a good giveaway? Well check out the one Tip Junkie is doing! it's called 12 Days of Junkie! She is giving away something everyday for twelve days. And she always has cute stuff so who doesn't want to win.
Thanks shelli for telling us about it!

Monday, November 10, 2008

We Did It! Finally...

I had a best friend in high school who lived just down the street from me.We hadn't seen or spoken to each other in 20 years ~We recently have gotten in touch again. And we have just happened to find ourselves neighbors again . Small world eh?

How cool is that? She googled my name and found me through my blog (scary!!) and got in contact! I am so grateful that she did!

So we did it finally. We got together. Wow. After 20 years!

We went out to dinner Saturday night with our husbands to a Cuban restaurant here in town. I was nervous to see her of course. Would she be the same? Would we have anything in common? Would she think I look old and haggard? See...I was worried Ü

Well, it was fantastic! We had a lot of laughs. She is the same fun gal I remember only better! Her husband is delightful as well. He's a funny, easygoing guy. And.. she is a blogger through and through! These pics are courtesy of her. My husband made me leave my camera at home but she brought hers. See Tony..every moment is a blog moment! I am glad she brought hers.

It was great to see her again and it felt like we just picked up right where we left off. It's funny how I always feel that way about my real /good friends!

Thanks Claudia and Bo! We'll have to do it again..That is if we didn't scare you off!

PS..kinda sucks that she looks so much better than me after 20 years. Luckily she was nice enough that I can forgive her Ü

Why I Supported Prop 8 and Prop 102!!!

OK, I totally poached this from brother Jim's blog but I just had to! I have been seething angry over prop 8 and 102. I can't believe the venom that is being directed towards us Mormons. I felt as if my religious beliefs were being trampled and we simply defended them. We NEVER wanted to take away any rights from anyone Else we just wanted to protect ours. And yet people are threatening to "take out" anyone they know is Mormon. Or burn our houses down. Or burn our temples down. All because we exercised our civic right and voted. What the???
So, because of my angry frustrated state of mind even though I have tried to post how I feel or why we voted the way we did, I end up deleting the post because I don't want to respond to venom with venom. And yet there is so much out there on the web that is lies and sick and demeaning and threatening to members of the LDS faith that I wanted to post our reason why.
So today Jimmy posted this on his blog. A friend of our family Kraig wrote it and it says it perfectly as to WHY we voted for prop 8 and prop 102! And he does it without any anger. The way I could not since I am upset with the attacks.
So here goes. It is long but if you were wondering why here it is folks...

I decided to write this memo in response to some of the questions I have seen posted. I am not sure if you really want an answer or if you were just being rhetorical, but your questions seemed very honest and I thought they deserved honest answers. I may not be the best spokesman for this, and I certainly have no authority to speak on behalf of the LDS faith, but I am a member of the LDS faith. I am also a licensed therapist and I have worked with people with same-sex attraction. I care about my clients and I strive to help my clients reach their goals based on their personal set of beliefs, not to impose my beliefs onto them. That being said, I am allowed to have my own beliefs and I feel it is my responsibility to vote according to my conscience and belief. Also, I am not writing this to force my beliefs on you (as that lame anti-Mormon commercial would have you believe – you know, the one with the evil missionaries invading the home of the lesbian couple). I am only writing this as a response to your question. If you don’t want to hear the other side of the issue, then don’t read this. If you do read this, please make the effort to understand my point of view rather than criticize.My purpose is not to persuade you of these beliefs. Please don’t read this with the idea that you are going to “catch” me in discrepancies of logic. Religion is not a logical thing. Instead, I am only hoping to show that the support of proposition 8 is not based in meanness and to try to help you understand the point of view of some of us that supported Prop 8.Before I get started on religious issues, I would like to point out that the people of California voted on this same issue 8 years ago. It should be concerning to all Americans that the supreme court in California decided to ignore the will of the people and make their own decision. Regardless of the sensitivity of this particular issue, it is VERY scary that the people of the state can make themselves clear through a democratic vote and then be overruled by a few elitist judges. Regardless of the issue, it should upset all Americans that a few judges in positions of power are dictating their will on the majority. It is a good bet that there are people so upset by the judges’ decision to legislate new entitlements against the will of the people that they voted YES on Prop 8 this year in order to demonstrate to the activist judges and to the Supreme Court that California is not a dictatorship. This will hopefully make a point to the judges that they are to rule on law, not create law. This may make supporters of gay marriage angry, but they should keep in mind that next time it could be a policy or law that they oppose that is ruled legal by rogue judges. This political activism by judges is a serious threat to democracy and it is critical that it not be allowed regardless of the issue (and in this case, it probably backfired on them).I should also point out that though the LDS faith has gotten much more media attention than other faiths involved in the Prop 8 controversy, it is by no means the only Christian faith involved. That being said, I will only attempt to explain theology based on LDS or “Mormon” beliefs.First, it is important to note that Mormon’s have a religious right to believe in traditional marriage being defined as a marriage between a man and woman. To deny this right would be just as prejudice as trying to deny the right of a Hindu to hold the cow sacred, or the right of pagans to worship the various gods of nature. Whether they should get involved in proactive politics is a completely different subject. In other words, there are two questions being asked. The first is, “Should Mormon’s vote based on their religious beliefs?” The second is “Why do Mormon’s believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman?”1. Should Mormon’s vote based on their religious beliefs?The first concern to members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints is the legal ramifications in regards to performing marriages. If same-sex marriages are ruled legal, it is very possible that all churches will be required to perform same-sex marriages in their chapels and temples. Failure to comply to perform legal same-sex marriages could possibly result in loss of their legal status as a church, including their federal tax exempt status. The problem Mormons have is not that they want to shape the law. The problem is that failure to support Prop 8 will result in the rule of law shaping their practice as a church. By the way, when the founding fathers wrote about separation of church and state, using the government to dictate how people worship is exactly what they meant to avoid. They were not talking about keeping the faith of people out of government; but instead referring to the government intervention in the doctrines of people’s faith. At the time, the English monarchy had a long history of controlling religious beliefs for the purpose of gaining power over the people. Evidence of this is in the phrase, “In god we trust.” Placing this on nearly every founding document shows that the intention was not to keep faith out of government, but instead to keep government out of the business of dictating faith. For instance, if homosexuals wanted to start a new tradition of civic unions and give it a new name besides “marriage,” Mormons would likely be very tolerant and indifferent to the whole thing (as long as you don’t teach it to their kids or require them to participate).Second is the problem with teaching children about marriage. If same-sex marriage is legalized, will a church be allowed to teach that it is immoral or will they be forced to tolerate what they consider as immoral? (Again, their right to view same-sex marriage as immoral is not in question – America was created for the purpose of tolerating different religious views). This also creates the problem of the effect this will have in schools and society as a whole. Mormons will be faced with a choice of homeschooling their children or having them exposed to a belief that is directly opposed to their moral values. Remember, regardless of whether you agree or not, people have a right to determine their religious and moral beliefs. Mormons also believe it is wrong to drink tea and coffee. If there was a measure on the ballot trying to force them to serve tea and coffee in their church or require schools to teach that tea and coffee are good, than the Mormons would likely oppose that also. For this reason, every time an elementary teacher takes a group of children to witness a same-sex marriage it reinforces the fears that Mormons have (and other traditionalists) that these immoralities will be overtly preached to their children. Again, this is an example of how liberal activists really are hurting the homosexual cause in the eyes of the traditional Christian majority due to the perception that they are actively striving to influence the perception of children. I have heard repeatedly the mantra from the picket line to leave homosexuals to live their lives and in return they will allow Mormons to live their lives. However, the above examples are a clear testament that this is simply not true. The homosexual community will never feel they have equality until their agenda is taught to children as being completely acceptable. Where is the right of the traditionalist to maintain their values? How is teaching immorality to our children, forcing churches to perform same-sex marriage, and being called a bigot for our beliefs leaving us alone? Where is the ACLU to defend the rights of Mormons to practice their religion? Is it possible for Mormons to hold their concept of Marriage sacred without being judged as homophobic or bigoted?Next, is the concept of worthiness within the Church. The Mormons have a number of ordinances (such as performing marriages, passing the sacrament, performing baptisms, etc.) that must be performed by a member of the church who wholeheartedly upholds all the values, morals, and commandments of the Church. If same-sex marriage were legalized, would the church be allowed to discriminate and determine who can and cannot perform these ordinances or will the ACLU and other activists begin to file lawsuits forcing the church to allow those legally married homosexuals to perform all the ordinances that a heterosexual can perform? Again, remember that it is not acceptable to change the doctrines of our religion to fit the world’s values. This is truly the violation of state dictating to church that the founding fathers were trying to prevent.Remember, my purpose is not to persuade you to subscribe to the Mormon beliefs. I only hope to help you understand why Mormons resist the legalizing of same-sex marriage and what it means to our religion. Our support is not an attack on anyone, it is a whole heartedly defensive measure designed to keep the government from dictating how we must practice our religion. Ironically, from the Mormon point of view, our way of life is what we feel is under attack.This brings us to the second question that I asked above:2. Why do Mormon’s believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman?I should make it clear that having an attraction to the same-sex is not considered a sin (any more than if a heterosexual man or woman had an attraction to a person of the opposite sex). It’s when someone acts on any sexual desire outside the bonds of marriage that creates the problem. This is where it gets a little complicated. Obviously, if Mormons would simply change their beliefs to include same-sex marriages, the problem would be solved. Why don’t they do this? In order to understand this, you will need to understand two things: The first is that everything we believe is based around the eternal unit of the family and the sacred privilege to bear children within the bonds of marriage. The second is that we believe in modern-day revelation.Mormons are not just giving lip service to the concept of a prophet. As insane as the rest of the world may consider this to be, we really believe that the president of our church is a prophet of God who currently receives direct revelation from God in all things. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is not a democracy, but a restoration of the very same gospel that was on the earth during the Old and New Testament. There are members of the Mormon Church that may wish that same-sex marriage would be made “OK.” However, their faith requires that they make the choice to either accept the teachings of the prophet or not. There is no in-between. The Church is either true or it is not true. If it is not true, then I might as well leave it and do as I want (and believe me, the temptations of life do beckon to all of us). However, if it is true, then I need to have faith that the doctrines are also true and it does no good for me to work to change those doctrines. Who am I to change the doctrines of God? I would never force someone to have the same beliefs as me, but I must, in good conscience, exercise my right to define and defend the most sacred covenant of marriage.I would like to share with you that I have worked with several clients (and a close family member) that are strong members of the LDS faith and are also struggling with same-sex attraction. It is heart wrenching to see their pain. They explained to me that they seem to be faced with the choice of turning their back on their beliefs, living a life without a partner, or living life with a partner of the opposite sex that they are not attracted to. I admit I do not have a suitable answer to this dilemma. I do know that I am not worthy to judge them for whatever decision they choose and I offer them as much love and support as I am able. As a therapist, I do not steer their beliefs. Indeed, some of my clients asked if I am a member of the LDS church and some did not ask until after they had explained their feelings to me. Also, though every group of people has a few bad seeds, the members of the LDS church that I know are very loving and supportive of homosexuals. The problem lies in the basic fundamental difference of belief that same-sex attraction is a “problem” to overcome rather than an acceptable way of life. I understand how this is offensive to the mainstream “gay” community. I wish it wasn’t. It is not meant to offend any more than it should offend anyone to have a different religious belief than someone else. It is just a different belief, not a wish for any ill will towards others.So, when you ask why people are so mean that they would vote for Proposition 8, I would say that it is not based on meanness. It is based on religious belief and a determination to act on that belief rather than sit idly on the sidelines while the government redefines a covenant that we hold sacred. I hope you have read this in the spirit of trying to understand the other side of the issue. I put a lot of time into this letter and I hope it is seen as an effort to build a bridge rather than as a tool of divisiveness

Thanks Kraig! This says it perfectly! You did what I could not!

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Wild And Crazy Guy!

OK, I'm not talkin Steve Martin here folks, nope, I'm talking about Anthony! I know that when I am with him I know that I am always going get a good laugh! I guess that's why the theme for his 18th birthday was "Pretty Princess"! It would get a good laugh and he would go along with it fantastically! Plus, he is kinda pretty don't ya think?

Anthony, Anthony! Happy Birthday! Here are a few things that we love about you!

Lauri~ I love that you seem to have really found yourself. I can see that you are really happy! You are confident, funny,and kind. I can see why people tend to look up to you! I am so proud of the young man you have become and they choices you have made ! Plus, like I said before I love that you make me laugh! I miss you!

Ashley ~ I love how he thinks he's "Rico Suave" with the ladies and how he always thinks he's funny (even though he's not). And he's so caring and compassionate, he's always looking for nice things to do for others. No, really!

Liz ~ I love that he's a hopeless romantic, and that he'll cry while watching chick flicks with me. And I love that he includes me with his friends even though I'm a Freshman and he's a Senior.

Eric ~ I love that Anthony cries while watching chick flicks. Man, I wish I'd known that sooner. I love that he thinks he's better than me at everything. I really enjoy his company. He's always so down-to- earth and attractive, it makes for a good time.

Zachary~ I love that Anthony cries during chick flicks. I love that he is outgoing and so easy to be around. He is a very relaxing person to be around.

Rachelle~ I love Anthony cries during chick flicks. (thanks for sharing Liz!) I love how nice he is to everyone. I love how fun he is to be around and I love that he is so caring to me.

Hannah~ I love that he cries while watching chick flicks (giggle!), I like how he always will drive me places and he is so nice to me!

Bailey~ I love to play with him. That's it. OK He is so cute too.

Grace~ That he gives me apples and candy

Dad~ I love that as a child he had curly hair. He always has a smile on his face.He is a good example in the choices that he has made. I am proud to be his father!
We hope you had a fun, wonderful 18th birthday Anthony! We wish that we could have been there to share it with you!
Happy, Happy Birthday!